It happens to the best of them. You’re in the middle of an intimate moment, everything seems to be going well, when all of a sudden he loses all the air in his tire. The wind goes out of his sail. The tent collapses. You know — he loses his erection. Don’t panic! This is not an emergency. We can help you deal in a way that will make your sex life even better than ever.
Know the Possible Causes
So what can trigger the loss of an erection? Any number of things!
1. Nervousness
2. Stress
3. Depression
4. Alcohol, tobacco, drugs, or medication
5. Low testosterone
6. Excess body weight
7. Health issues: Diabetes, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, and other diseases and conditions can affect penile function.
Switch Gears
If he loses it, do something else you’ll both enjoy. Transition to foreplay, oral sex, toys, anything that will make him feel aroused but doesn’t depend on a hard penis.
Talk About It
Maybe not RIGHT at that moment, but when he’s feeling relaxed and secure, share your feelings about what happened. Then encourage him to share his feelings as well. If you can open up to each other and be vulnerable and supportive, this could actually bring you closer together.
Help Him Take Care of His Heart
ED can be a sign of heart disease in older men. Turns out the blood vessels in a penis are smaller than those in the heart. Eighty percent of men whose first heart attack lands them in the hospital report developing ED within the last three years. So make sure your man is taking good care of his heart by eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep, and getting regular checkups.
Rethink the Purpose of the Penis
This is an excellent opportunity to let go of your misconceptions about sex. A penis is not a “tool” and it does not perform on command. Sex isn’t ALL about a penis going in and out of a vagina. Find other, more creative ways to pleasure each other and express intimacy. Expand your sexual vocabulary. And have fun with it!
